First Time at a Sex Club? Here’s What to Expect

If you’re nervous about your first experience at a sex club, you’re not alone. Many people are apprehensive about their first visit to a sex club, even though they may have fantasized about it before trying it. If you’re ready to explore the world of sex clubs, the best thing you can do is educate yourself in advance on what goes on at these clubs and what to expect when you’re there so that your first time doesn’t seem as intimidating as you might imagine.

Dress code

You might be a little bit nervous about going to your first sex club, and you’re wondering what the dress code is. Unlike a restaurant or another type of private venue, you will not need formal dress attire. You will want to make sure that you are modestly dressed for a few reasons: 

1) There may be other newbies there who are feeling nervous and insecure like you, so it is better not to draw attention by showing too much skin. 2) For some people who are at sex clubs on business, they would prefer not have their clients see them wearing anything but their professional attire (but if this doesn’t apply to you, then wear whatever makes you feel sexy). 

3) Some venues don’t allow clothes in the sexual areas.

Indulge your fantasies

Most of us can’t wait to lose our virginity, but what about losing your inhibitions at a sex club with like-minded folks? Chances are you’ve fantasized about this, but fear might have kept you from exploring the idea. We’re here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be nerve-wracking and that as long as you know what to expect when it comes time for your first visit, things should go smoothly. 

#1 – Dress for success. You’re not going out on a date with your lover or on a job interview. At a sex club, clothes are optional so even if there are no coat check attendants around, they won’t judge if you want to come in wearing your birthday suit.

Get used to nudity

Going nude in a sex club can take some getting used to. Sometimes, other people will seem much more confident about being naked. You might feel like everyone is looking at you, and if there are voyeurs or exhibitionists on the premises, they might be looking at you too. Feeling uncomfortable is natural, but often all it takes is realizing that most of the time, everyone is just focused on themselves or their own partners rather than on you. Once you’re aware of this and start not caring about what others think (which might happen sooner than later), you’ll probably feel a lot better about things and enjoy yourself a lot more. Keep an open mind and remember that it’ll get easier each time!

Things you should know before visiting

First, if you are visiting for the first time be mindful of any extra personal information. Simply getting your ID checked can provide a considerable amount of personal information about yourself if the person checking it doesn’t know how to handle it discreetly. Second, know what you want before going into the club. Do not let someone else dictate your experience and don’t feel pressured into anything you’re not comfortable with while there. There is no shame in saying no politely and waiting for another day or session when something new interests you. Third, trust your gut instinct!

Plan an escape route

If this is your first time at a sex club, you might be surprised by what you find. Sex clubs aren’t simply dark rooms with mattresses on the floor. The club might have multiple playrooms equipped with fetish furniture such as swings and slings, or they might be themed in some way. Rooms may contain only glory holes or a maze of dark passages that require a safe word for entry. Having an escape route planned out can ensure that you’re always aware of where to go if anything goes wrong and give you peace of mind if the experience isn’t what you had expected

Check the place out before going in

Before you go, check out the place on social media and make sure it feels right for you. If there are any mentions of shady business or hidden costs that give you pause, consider going somewhere else or look into a different club. You can also call up a friend who may have been before, or ask someone at the door to answer your questions before you join in. The important thing is that this is your first time and there’s no need to commit to anything too soon.